Out in the world we come into contact with many types of people. There are good ones but our lives are also sprinkled with problem people. Somehow they show up when we are the busiest, although dealing with a problem person is never convenient. But we have the control over our lives and we can’t let that control be taken away. We have the power to perceive the cup is half full or half empty. When we take an insult to heart, we have given in to their negativity. At that point we are out of balance. We have let them take over our life.
We all have rude people in our lives who want to take away our joy. They think they know better than we do, they spout untruths and they try to make things out to be worse than they are. We can choose whether we give in to their negative ways or whether we feel good about ourselves and laugh the comments away. We can smile or simply change the topic to something of interest to them. But we can’t let them take us down by believing what they say or questioning our own abilities.
We have a responsibility to ourselves to empower ourselves to be positive and think of ways to turn a situation around rather than giving in to their efforts to tear us down. The next time a person is rude to you, a customer is abrupt and harried, or your boss implies that he is not happy with your work ask yourself “Why is this getting to me? Is it really about me or is it more about the other person?”
Some suggestions for transforming problem people into happy people:
• Oftentimes when people are rude it is because they are expressing a fear or belief about themselves. It doesn’t make it right but maybe that person needs some reassurance themselves. So how hard is it to give in? Maybe “I’m sorry you’re having a bad day” is in order. And if it does nothing more than make you feel better, it’s worth it.
• Greet everyone you meet with a genuine compliment or kind word, including difficult people. Everyone wants to be respected and supported. If you respect and support them, they will respect and support you.
• Experience inner peace by letting go of the need to be right and letting everyone know how right you are.
By responding angrily to that problem person you show that in order to stand up for yourself, you must hurt another person. Emerge a winner in the conflict. Choose to bypass the negativity and feel peace of mind.
Until next time I leave you with this.....Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.